2016 Podcast Excerpt: Valentine's Outro
Before I go, because it's the Valentine's Day pod, I want to dedicate some time to not love, or romance, but the things we do out of love, which we sometimes do everyday yet those things often go under the radar and we never really talk about them. So please tweet what you do out of love or what your partner does for you at me. I am very interested in those I think they tell real stories about relationships we don't usually see.
And of course, DW is here for this. We both have a strong dislike for Valentine's Day yet we always end up doing something.
We really should stop. I personally would prefer to exchange gifts on President's Day, an under appreciated holiday
Ok well now I am expecting a gift on Presidents Day
Like a President Lincoln pez dispenser?
I'm fine with that
Good, because that's what I got you as a valentine's present
Aww thanks. Alright, back on track, things we do out of love.
wait we have to talk about that? I thought that was for twitter. Things I do for you? Or things you do for me? What are the rules here?
Full disclosure I explained this whole thing before we started
You start, actually no I am going to. Here's this thing I only do for you because I love you. Sometimes DW works really late and if she is the last person leaving her office, she makes me come to her office, the other night I went there at 2:15 AM, I have to have a security badge and then ride the elevator alone usually to her floor so she doesn't have to get on the elevator alone at night.
I am seriously terrified of being stuck in an elevator alone especially late at night. I would happily work in a basement cubicle or something to avoid it.
We've been doing this for years but when it first started I kept telling her to take the stairs instead
it's too many stairs
That's no what you said though you were like, "it's slate stairs, if I fall on them I will die and no one will find me" I will say though, having seen just one flight of the stairs they are pretty risky.
This only happens sometimes
A few times a month...for the last I don't know how many years... and sometimes someone from a different floor will also get on the elevator on the way down...
Well no guarantees on that though, and they could be bad news who knows. I mean we now live really close to where I work so... whatever. Isn't love just really you willing to inconvenience yourself for someone else? But actually it is a big deal to me and I appreciate it a lot.
Well great romantic wisdom there. Okay I gave you a head start.
Well you know, yours is a good one, and this one is not going to sound as great, but I think it's really important... that I do all the dishes.
I knew you were going to say that! Does that count? Is that really something you do out of love?
Uh yeah, because if I didn’t love you I would probably throw them at you. You leave dishes everywhere usually cups of water and mugs everywhere and when you used to sometimes do dishes you would leave clean dishes on the counter for days... instead of putting them in cabinets… where dishes go… and it's just one of those things I don't want to fight about it like I'm just going to do it and now I just always do it
Those clean dishes were drying!
You know those things called dish towels?
I thought those were decorative.
They are, in fact, functional. When we moved in together like five years ago now did you ever think you were getting a free dishwashing service?
Free? Please. I have to pick you up from your day job.
You know what makes me the craziest about this is that we have a dishwasher
but we never have any dish washer detergent
It's a struggle.
You know I always intended to do my own dishes or put them away but you are just really impatient about it but I am not complaining. What is the max amount of time you ever waited for me to take care of my own dishes?
Mmm like two or three days.
trust me I was in agony waiting for you to do it.
You are a lying liar. Try like two hours.
You know even two hours is kind of a long time to leave dishes around. But whatever it’s fine I’m used to it like those three glasses on the windowsill behind you right now, I am just going to do it right after this is done. Love you, can't stand it.
I noticed you were intensely glaring at the window for some time
I also think like house work is kind of an under appreciated aspect of how relationships develop and an expression of caring in all relationships but also in like a gay relationship where there aren't presumed roles, so it's like a very deliberate choice being made
Right because well... because it's important to acknowledge and express love outside of commercialized romantic stuff in a celebratory way sometimes you have to risk your life walking to meet your partner at almost 2 AM at her office because she can't take an elevator by herself
Oh please, like bad things ever happen to women walking the streets at night
or like leaving dishes could really be that bad..
Okay okay, we are in the outro, tweet at me your stories, especially like DW said, the most important and caring things we do aren’t usually grand romantic gestures but often under appreciated domestic work and let's appreciate it by specific acknowledgement. Let me know those things you truly appreciate or something you want to be more appreciated that you do in your relationship. Valentine’s Day is probably here to stay whether we like it or not so at least maybe one day we can cover the things that are really worth it. The next pod will be up on the 21st. Goodnight!